Let's Get Serious

The Power in Humility

 

Hey y’all! I can’t believe students have already started classes. Thank goodness I don’t for two more weeks because I am nowhere near mentally ready to take on this semester. I think we all can relate to the pit in our stomachs when we think about school, (no? just me? okay no big deal). Although I am looking forward to getting back into a routine and to see my friends that live way too far away. Anyways, I was having a conversation with my dear friend about social media and the power that it can easily hold over us (yes I realize this is the second post in a row where one of my friends has sparked a blog post, but that’s the beauty in conversation). Through this conversation and an amazing song by Jon Bellion, I realized the importance of humility. Also, I read an article on PsychologyToday because let’s be honest, I’m a slut for that site.

Anyways! Let’s get on with it. I did a quick Google search on the definition of humility and this is what I got “a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.” It pisses me off a little because when I think of humility, I don’t equate that to a low view of one’s own importance. I think being called humble is one of the most valued compliments you can give an individual. It’s exceptionally hard to admit our own shortcomings, flaws, and ignorance. Recognizing those does not make someone weak, less than, or devalued.

Today’s social media is overly saturated with what we want other people to see. This isn’t some groundbreaking idea either, we all know how fake social media is. It’s honestly the only thing I hate about social media. Not everyone on social media is a fraud, that’s not what I’m saying at all. But people generally don’t get great responses if they put out their very screwed up life on social media. Which, I think, is terrible. The internet is our greatest power. We have the ability to connect with people that live thousands of miles away, why wouldn’t we use it to be vulnerable and in return, humble? Like I said above, it’s incredibly difficult to acknowledge our own shortcomings. Then if we somehow manage to “bare all”, we’re often met with the “my life is worse than your life” mantra. Which only discourages us from sharing anything that makes us vulnerable.

On the opposite end of the “my life is worse” is the “one-upper”. The person that always has to do something better than you. They can’t congratulate your successes, no they have to somehow show that they’ve done better than you. Obviously, this is not what humility is. But it’s very hard to stay humble in a world that prefers “one-uppers” to authenticity. I don’t want to generalize because genuine people are out there, they’re just rare. Humble people aren’t necessarily the majority and I have a good feeling why that is.

To be humble means that you have to be confident in who you are. You have to be comfortable understanding that some people will be better than you, but that it doesn’t take away from you. You have to comfortable admitting your flaws, shortcomings, and failures. Humility stems from being wholly content in oneself. Think about it. How could someone who isn’t happy with themselves, share joy for someone else’s successes? Y’all there is so much in this world to learn, so many discoveries that are being made every day. No one on this planet has all of the answers and that is okay. What isn’t okay, is thinking that you do have all the answers. New technological advances are being made and changing everything we thought we knew. Highly renowned and respected scientists, geologists, researchers, etc., are having to relearn information that they thought they knew. And guess what y’all, they’re still respected. They’re still given awards and they’re still discovering.

I just encourage y’all to be okay with what you don’t know, who you are, and where you’re going. Try your best to stop comparing yourself to others. Try your best to be happy when someone succeeds. Try your best to not put yourself above others or below them; each person is your peer, a peer that you share respect with.

Now let me try to wrap this up as fluently as possible because I did mention that a Jon Bellion song played a part in my thoughts. His latest album features the song “Maybe IDK” and the song has my heart.  I’ll paste the lyrics below so you can read them while listening. I truly truly love this song. I love that he doesn’t know, he doesn’t know and that is OKAY. Just give it a listen y’all. I truly appreciate each person reading this and I truly hope y’all are on your way to happiness or that you’re already happy. If you’re not, you’re in my thoughts always.

 

I wonder why I get paranoid when I’m high
I wonder why I say yes to everyone in my life
I wonder why I can’t run that fast in my dreams
I wonder why I feel short when I know my money’s tall
I wonder why I miss everyone and I still don’t call
I wonder why I can’t run that fast in my dreams

Although I guess if I knew tomorrow
I guess I wouldn’t need faith
I guess if I never fell, I guess I wouldn’t need grace
I guess if I knew His plans, I guess He wouldn’t be God

So maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay
Maybe that’s okay, maybe that’s okay
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay

I wonder why I feel emptiness and I sing these blues
I wonder why I feel hopelessness when I watch the news
I wonder why I can’t find my voice in my dreams
I wonder why they say hate your brother and hide your gold
I wonder why we all fear the things that we might not know
I wonder why I can’t find my voice in my dreams

Although I guess if I knew tomorrow
I guess I wouldn’t need faith
I guess if I never fell, I guess I wouldn’t need grace
I guess if I knew His plans, I guess He wouldn’t be God

So maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay
Maybe that’s okay, maybe that’s okay
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay

All this shit, I can’t explain
Is it by design or random fate, yeah

So maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay
Maybe that’s okay, maybe that’s okay
Maybe I don’t know, maybe I don’t know
But maybe that’s okay

 

Thank you for reading!

xo- Heidi

 

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