Hey y’all! I hope everyone has easily adjusted to classes starting back up. I just completed the first week of my junior year and man, it feels like I was plunked into the middle of the semester. The work load I have is unreal. But I know it will get done. I just have to get back into the swing of things, but it really does feel good to exercise my brain again. Anyways, I really have no basis for this blog post, other than wanting share about the overwhelming power that positivity can make in our lives. Also, as sort of a reflection. I am so far from the person I was this time last year. I am in such a different environment and it finally feels healthy.
I’ve mentioned numerous times about the importance of doing life with supportive people. I can’t stress that fact enough. We, as human beings, are not designed to live on our own. No matter how much we think we can, we cannot. We need a support system, we can only support ourselves for so long until we can’t get back up anymore. It is acceptable to ask for help and more importantly it should be encouraged within your friend group. I’ve learned and what I hope to continue to learn is that vulnerability brings deep and lasting connections. Vulnerability is hard. It’s not easy by any means. It takes conscious effort and work. It can be painful, yes, but that’s where the healing begins. Being vulnerable within your support system is necessary so your supporters know how to actually support you. For example, I’m living with two of my closest friends and we haven’t lived together before. While talking with one of my friends, she worried (from a place of love) about the amount of time I spend alone (introverts, you know my feels). I understood why it would seem weird. I had to be vulnerable with her and explain that she only needs to worry when my physical space is extremely messy. If my clean laundry has been sitting unfolded in my basket for at least a week or if I leave my clothes in the bathroom consecutively, then she needs to worry. My mental health, when it’s bad, is very much noticeable in my physical space. In my vulnerability, she learned how to support me.
There is so much power in positivity y’all. Everything on Earth has energy. Whether that be negative or positive. We can’t deny that the energy is there. I’m currently reading “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero (don’t worry it will be in my favorites post) and she explained our energy in very simple terms, she says, “The universe is made up of energy. All energy vibrates at a certain frequency. Which means you’re vibrating at a certain frequency, and everything you desire, and don’t desire, is also vibrating at a certain frequency. Vibration attracts like vibration.” What she says is so incredibly powerful. “When we’re vibrating at a low frequency (pessimistic, needy, victimized, jealous, shameful, worried, convinced we are ugly) yet expect high frequency, awesome things and experiences to come into our lives, we are often disappointed. Positivity breeds positivity. To get what you want out of life, you’ve got to work at it. To be happy, you have to go out and grab it. When bad things happen, work at finding the light in the situation.
Surrounding yourself with positive, loving, genuine people will create an incredibly empowering environment. Yeah, we’re not all perfect. We’re not all positive every single second of every single day. There will be days when I personally can’t manage to find the freaking light at the end of the hardship. But I trust that my friends are able to see the light. When they see the light, I know I’ll be able to as well. My support system is there to pick up where I lack. It works the same for every person in our “soul friendship.” I live with women who are boss ass bitches and will bring me joy and laughter. Everyday I am thankful for the group that we’ve created. It takes work. Because I can’t stress that enough. We all continually work at bettering ourselves and each other. There is so much beauty in that. I hope that y’all can truly find at least one person who brings your positive energy into your life. I am sending that our into the universe for y’all.
In regards to my reflection, I just want to reiterate how draining and unhealthy a negative environment is for our well being. Don’t ever feel guilty for cutting negative people out of your life. There is nothing wrong with doing what is best for yourself and cutting out the toxic. It’s too easy to get caught up in the nostalgia of what used to be, but please don’t let that hold you back from living in the now. Nostalgia makes everything look better than it was. The future holds the same anxiety inducing thoughts. Focusing on today, and taking life one day at a time is so liberating. It truly enables me to find my positivity. People ask me how I stay so positive, my answer is the same, “take it one day at a time”. I realize it sounds cliche, but really no amount of anxiety will change the past. We can’t change the future either, because it hasn’t happened yet. We have the power to turn every day into a good day.
Thank you for reading my very messy thoughts. I truly hope that I gave y’all some insight. I believe in you. The universe believes in you. Stay positive.